What is the number one dream killer

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什么是Dream的头号杀手?

Doing what works.

保持现状(懒惰,就是懒惰、仅仅懒惰

By doing what works, I mean following a safe, easy, path where it’s unlikely you’ll find much that’s unknown. It’s comfortable and secure, so we think.

维持现状,意味着一条安全,容易并且没有多少不确定性的轨迹。那种我们感觉舒适而安逸的轨迹。

I don’t know about you, but I want more than just security. I want to live not simply survive. If we want to have any hope at making our dreams a reality, we have to carve out our own path. We have to find a way to get paid to be ourselves. We must drop conventional wisdom (collective assumption) and break away from the herd.

我不知道你是怎么想的,但是我不能满足于安逸.我想要精彩的生活而不仅仅是简单的在这个世界上生存而已.如果我们想要实现梦想,就需要用自己坚实而勤奋的努力去开创属于自己的道路.我们需要一份能实现自我的职业.我们需要打破常规从人群中脱颖而出.

But that takes courage, doesn’t it? It’s not easy taking giant leaps of faith, especially when you don’t know if there will be any floor beneath your next step.

但这需要勇气,不是么?想要在命运的道路上跃起一大步并不是件容易的事情,更何况你还不知道是否有坚实的陆地会出现在你梦想着陆的地方.

So in order to start living on our own terms, we need to do two things:

所以在我们按自己的意愿开始生活之前,我们需要做两件事:

* Stop caring, and…

* 停止担忧,然后…

* Break our uncertainty threshold.

* 打破我们面对未知的屏障。

Since it’s the simplest of the two, let’s start with why we need to stop caring.

仅仅只有两点,所以让我们停止担忧开始.

This may seem shocking to you, but much of what’s standing in the way of you and your dreams is caring a bit too much about things that really don’t matter.

也许这种说法让你很吃惊,但是很大程度上阻隔在你和你的人生理想之间的正是你对那些琐事的担忧.

Your caring too much about having new cool things causes you to spend money on things you don’t need. That money could go toward a fund for transitioning to open your own business, and doing something you love. Your caring about what other people think keeps you from asking for help — or asking for what you want — that could further you on the path toward your dreams. In the same way, caring too much about not knowing where to start keeps you paralyzed, and causes you to not take action.

你太想拥有那些新奇的好玩意儿,而让你花费大量金钱在那些其实你并不需要的东西上.也许本来可以用那笔钱作为你的创业基金或者做一些你热爱的事情.你太担心别人怎样看你让你对面对问题难以启齿又不愿接受他人的帮助。这只能让你离人生的目标越来越远。同样的道理,太关心从哪里开始让自己改变让你忽略了你需要立即开始行动这个事实。

This kind of caring is unhealthy. It’s getting in the way of you living the life you want to lead.

这种毫无意义的敏感与担心是不健康的。它让你不能控制你自己想主导的生活。

So the first step is: stop caring.

所以第一步就是:停止担忧。

You don’t know how to stop caring? It’s very simple, so don’t over complicate it. Imagine what you’d do with a hot piece of coal in your hand. Naturally, you would drop it immediately. Do the same thing with caring about things that aren’t important. Scary? Yes. Worth it? Hell yes!

你不知道怎么样停止担忧些无意义的事?非常简单。想像一下如果在你手心放下一块烧红的热炭会怎么办?很自然的你会立即扔掉它。用同样的道理对待你的担忧。难以置信么?当然。但这样值得么?更当然!

The second thing you need to do is push your uncertainty threshold.

你需要做的第二件事情就是打破面对未知的屏障。

We all have a certain limit, or threshold, for the amount of uncertainty we can handle. For some of us, we have such a low limit, we’re afraid of even simple things, like talking to a stranger. We can’t predict what the person we’ll say, so we can’t tolerate the uncertainty. This is on the lower end of the spectrum. The higher end of the scale might be not being able to quit your job and follow your passion. There’s no way you can foresee what will happen, so you let uncertainty keep you from taking action.

每个人对未知的把握程度都是有限的。对于我们中的有些人,这种极限非常低,有人甚至害怕同如何陌生人说话。因为我们不能预测将要与什么样的人对话,所以无法容忍这种来自未知的恐慌。还有比如不敢辞掉现在的工作去追随自己的理想。因为无法预见未来要发生的事,所以我们允许这种种的不确定性控制着我们而不能做出行动。

The thing is, what’s holding you back is mostly illusory fears. None of them are based on past events, or any real data. It’s all in your head.

但事实是,所有这些羁绊着你的恐惧都是毫无意义的。其中没有任何一种原因是建立在过去的经验或是真实的数据上的。全部都是你自己的脑袋在这样想而已。

So in order to pursue our dreams, we have to stop caring about not knowing. We have to push our uncertainty limit, to be able to tolerate bigger and bigger risks. You can start small by talking to stranger or telling someone how you really feel when you would normally hold back.

所以为了实现目标,为了我们的人生理想,必须停止对这种不确定的担忧。必须提高面对未知的能力,必须让自己能够成承担更大的风险。你可以从小事做起,比如跟陌生人说话或者告诉某人你的真实感受,如果平常你会对这件事情犹豫不决,那么现在你就要勇敢的面对,并且实际的行动起来。

Whenever you feel afraid of doing something, question where the fear is coming from. Is it real, or imagined? Are you in any perceived physical danger? If not, do what you are afraid of. Push your uncertainty limit. Your dreams depend on it.

如果你感觉到害怕或者想要退缩,找到这些感觉的来源。这些恐惧是真实的或只是你脑中的臆想?这件事真的会让你实际受到伤害吗?如果不是,那就面对这些恐惧。推升你面对未知的极限。你的成败取决于此。

The more you do this, the more you’ll be unafraid to take bigger and bigger risks. You’ll become a lion instead of a mouse. Your dreams will start taking root in the world.

你越是敢于面对,就越不惧怕风险。你将变成一只狮子而不是一只老鼠。你的梦想也将在现实中生根。

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It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

只有付出的爱是痛苦的,但比这更痛苦是爱一个人却没有勇气让那人知道你的感情。

A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you,only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

生命中令人悲伤的一件事是你遇到了一个对你来说很重要的人,但却最终发现你们有缘无份,因此你不得不放手。

It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives.

的确只有当我们失去时才知道曾拥有的是什么,同样,只有当我们拥有了才知道曾经失去了什么。

Dream what you want to dream;go where you want to go;be what you want to be,because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

做你想做的梦吧,去你想去的地方吧,成为你想成为的人吧,因为你只有一次生命,一个机会去做所有那些你想做的事。

4 条评论

  • KattyBlackyard
    2009年06月15日

    Great post! I’ll subscribe right now wth my feedreader software!

  • GarykPatton
    2009年06月16日

    Hi! I like your srticle and I would like very much to read some more information on this issue. Will you post some more?

  • Bruce
    2009年06月16日

    @GarykPatton Sure.I will.

  • Bruce
    2009年06月16日

    @KattyBlackyard Thank you

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